He walked right in, with his pretty little pink tights on under his shorts (bless his heart)and stole our hearts immediately. He was much smaller and frailer than we expected, but that didn't matter a bit to us. And although we didn't see much of a smile or any kind of emotion out of him, we knew it was there. It had just been contained for almost 5 yrs. That makes me sad even now as I type this. Oh how I hated to have to leave him when it came time for us to return home. We promised him we would be back to get him and he would never be alone again. But what we had hoped would be only 1 to 2 months, turned into almost 4 months. And to make matters worse, even though they knew we were coming back to get him, Gabe was transferred to another orphanage for older mentally impaired children. We were absolutely sick about this. But rules must be followed and this is what they said had to be done. This is what happens in Eastern Europe to orphans with special needs when they turn 4 or 5 yrs. old. Actually Gabe had been lucky to have gotten to stay as long as he did in the only orphanage he had ever known. And I do believe that his caregivers there were very sad when they had to say their goodbyes to him.
So for us, and I'm sure for him, the next 4 months seemed almost like 4 yrs. But finally on July 31, we crossed that ocean again, this time to bring our precious little boy home. We had been told that he was not doing as well at the new orphanage. We really didn't know what to expect this time either. We knew he was so little and fragile 4 months earlier so naturally we expected the worse. But you know what, we were pleasantly surprised by his size when we saw him. He had grown some and was much more stable on his feet and more active too. But the smile I longed for still wasn't there. There was just no joy or sureness in his little face the first day we met again. Bless his heart, he was so unsure of everything at first.
After our first visit with him, Rick and I both left that orphanage in tears. Our hearts hurt for the brokenness and confusion we saw in the eyes of our precious new son. Our hearts hurt for the other kiddos who we knew no one was coming for. And just as we had done many times before, we turned to the only one who could make sense out of this. And just like always, God delivered. The next time we went back to see Gabe, he seemed like a different child almost. He was happier and there was a connection with us that wasn't there before. Yep, the Lord did it again:)
After our court date on Aug. 5, we had to wait 10 days before we could take Gabe from the orphanage, but I got to visit him during that time. And then finally.......August 23, 2011, we landed in Dallas, Tx. U. S. A.!!!
Sometimes I still have to pinch myself to make sure its real.
The adjustment Gabe has made in just 4 short months is almost unbelievable. I have said it before, but he is like a little sponge, just soaking up everything he can. Sometimes I watch him and the tears begin and won't stop. I sit here in awe of what God has allowed us to do. And the tears begin again.
Yes sir. What a year it has been. No longer alone, no longer confused, no longer unloved or unwanted. Will you just look at him now!
You little one, ARE love, sent by God above.
Wow. What.A.Year.
Hi Kim, I'm Jamie's mom and known as Nealy to Zeb (hislead.blogspot.com). Just want to say how happy I am for you and Gabe - he doesn't even look like the same kid! What a doll! God bless you and your sweet family.
ReplyDeleteThanks for continuing to share about Gabe on your blog. It is so good to see his smiling face. God Bless your family in 2012. RR supporter in Houston.
ReplyDeleteHe is so precious! I have really enjoyed following your family's journey to bring Gabe home and watching him grow and thrive with all the love you are giving him. God bless you and your family this new year!
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ReplyDeleteI just found your blog from following links about Valentin and other bloggers blogging about him. You are an amazing mom and family. Your son looks completely transformed. Bless you.
Sue
He is precious and so are the rest of the Decker Family. So good to see your family on Sunday in church...but we missed you this past Sunday. Always miss Cole to sing happy birthday. Love you guys. Happy New year. Wilma
ReplyDeleteKim, my heart catches in my throat when I look at the first pictures of Gabe. I am so thankful you and Rick had the courage to go make him ours! God has been so good to us! I can't imagine life without Gabe in it. I love you'll so much. Mimi
ReplyDeleteBaby, as the tears roll I thank our FATHER GOD for allowing us the privilege to be part of Gabe's large family & many friends. Gabe is truly a precious gift from our wonderful Lord & Savior..............
ReplyDeleteWe love you'll to the stars & back,
Mom & Dad